It’s a well known fact that every single woman drops at least 10 pounds the minute she becomes recently separated. She gets upset and is unable to eat frequently, she’s stressed about the unknown, the attorney fees, and how her kids are doing. Most people would say they feel confident, sexy, that they love the feeling of their clothes practically falling off of them. ’ I looked in the mirror one day and I felt really, really old and tired. I didn’t feel like I was attractive on the inside or outside. I was a stay at home mom: I hadn’t had a job in 6 years.She’s busy, or she might have just started working again. And lastly, the recently separated woman is dating again. Most would say they see themselves as being more attractive, right? But, let me take you into the mind of the recently separated 40 something woman. I had zero self esteem when it came to my professional ability, and figured the only skills I had now were diaper changing, bottle feeding and house cleaning.Time Elapsed A new separation is clearly more undefined.Committed couples often hit major snags in a relationship and lose each other for a period of time.I'm counseling a man right now who within weeks of finding out that his wife was cheating on him, separated and started dating.Within 60 days of separating, he was in a pretty serious new relationship.
Though there are multiple variations on the theme, there is one way in which they all are similar: two women are in a competitive triangle with the same man.Floppy relationship triangles are essentially unstable and the outcomes are not only unpredictable, but often dire.There are many factors that can affect these triangulated relationships, and how they are combined can affect the outcome in different ways.He traveled a good deal, so we had dinners, our children, her, and I.She helped me with decorating, picking out clothes, and cooking….Being someone who lost about 10 pounds right off the bat, I felt anything but pretty and sexy and confident. When I got separated, I temporarily became a person who doesn’t define who I really am. I was very stressed because I now had to think about what I was going to do for work, with no current computer skills and no belief in myself. I was coming out of a toxic situation: I think when two people are in an unhappy, unhealthy marriage, (which could be for years) both are losing self-worth every minute they stay together. Because you are around this person constantly who you think hates you, or who is belittling you, or who you know doesn’t want to be with you anymore, or who is condescending, or mean.